The second chance !!!
It was Sunday morning.i got a MSG from Bob,used to be my roommate in graduation college.it was after a long time(may be a month),we had a chat.
Dear Sid,
you know I'm kind of shy around new people,especially attractive women.When i had a crush on my friend's colleague.I had to ask her out asap even though i wasn't so sure.Then the thing happened which i was expecting to.Our mutual friend said her colleague wished if i had showed more confidence to ask her out then things might be different.Do you think should i ask her out again? this time with more confidence.DO you really think there is a Second Chance ?
And My reply was something like this
Are you sure you want to do this?I mean is she worth that much? for second chance. Don't you think pointing out your confidence while asking her out is just an excuse for her.I mean don't you think asking her out is also a sign of confidence in itself?.well for a moment leave her out.lets address something else that you brought up.
Its good that you found out about your shyness.leaving your crush comment behind if you really think that being shy is holding you back then why don't you take your time to let the other person know that you want to ask her out.I don't think waiting for sometime will put you in a friendzone. Ever noticed that some people around you after being together started getting attracted to each other ?Because it really happens.I don't buy friend Zone thing.I have female friends who are in my life because they are very good people and i care about them not because I hope to date them someday.However treating people of different gender may be significant. that's why it has nothing to do with your confidence level.
There's nothing bad in being shy.It may be cause some awkward to yourself but not to your partner.Sometimes its a cute thing.And shyness doesn't mean you are lack of confidence.It means you take more times than usual to get into social situations and there's nothing wrong with that.What i am saying is there are women who will like you for being yourself.So don't feel you have to change yourself for anyone.So now the BIG QUESTION.
Can you ask her out again?Sure.i don't think first impression has something to do with this case.Nothing has ruined or anything.you were just shy not offensive in any manner or anything wrong with u to ask her out.I cant guarantee you what's the highest level of confidence to ask her out but waiting however long you feel is right before asking her out again is important.So
Dear Sid,
you know I'm kind of shy around new people,especially attractive women.When i had a crush on my friend's colleague.I had to ask her out asap even though i wasn't so sure.Then the thing happened which i was expecting to.Our mutual friend said her colleague wished if i had showed more confidence to ask her out then things might be different.Do you think should i ask her out again? this time with more confidence.DO you really think there is a Second Chance ?
And My reply was something like this
Are you sure you want to do this?I mean is she worth that much? for second chance. Don't you think pointing out your confidence while asking her out is just an excuse for her.I mean don't you think asking her out is also a sign of confidence in itself?.well for a moment leave her out.lets address something else that you brought up.
Its good that you found out about your shyness.leaving your crush comment behind if you really think that being shy is holding you back then why don't you take your time to let the other person know that you want to ask her out.I don't think waiting for sometime will put you in a friendzone. Ever noticed that some people around you after being together started getting attracted to each other ?Because it really happens.I don't buy friend Zone thing.I have female friends who are in my life because they are very good people and i care about them not because I hope to date them someday.However treating people of different gender may be significant. that's why it has nothing to do with your confidence level.
There's nothing bad in being shy.It may be cause some awkward to yourself but not to your partner.Sometimes its a cute thing.And shyness doesn't mean you are lack of confidence.It means you take more times than usual to get into social situations and there's nothing wrong with that.What i am saying is there are women who will like you for being yourself.So don't feel you have to change yourself for anyone.So now the BIG QUESTION.
Can you ask her out again?Sure.i don't think first impression has something to do with this case.Nothing has ruined or anything.you were just shy not offensive in any manner or anything wrong with u to ask her out.I cant guarantee you what's the highest level of confidence to ask her out but waiting however long you feel is right before asking her out again is important.So
"Yes,There's a Second Chance".
-Sid
-Sid
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